“I need help”

In my humble opinion, the three words that’s the hardest to be articulated in this century is not “I love you” anymore.

At least, in my case. And as I am quite a normal human, a decent amount of other humans should relate to me. No? Okay quit reading, you alien.

Take a stroll around social medias and you’ll see people displaying their affections publicly, everywhere. It doesn’t necessarily have to be romantic love, as a quick search on Instagram would show:

Just as a comparison and this is getting a little irrelevant but whatever:

You see my point?


“Help” involves two parties, and is always transferred through an action from an entity to another entity in a myriad of ways, to lighten the burden of the receiver.

Lol screw my life this is getting more complicated the more I ponder upon it. Ugk. I should be sleeping!!


Anyway, I kinda just wanna say that a lot of people have huge egos nowadays because of, well, probably society but there are a million other possibilities and they think that asking for help is embarrassing that’s why they don’t do it and then stress themselves and burn themselves out and tada mental illnesses come and your life is probably ruined if you still didn’t ask for help when your mind is screwed. Woof, what a long sentence.

What I also notice is, people love to help.

“Excuse me, could you please carry my suitcase to the upper compartment?” – life as a tiny Asian in an European train built for giant Europeans

Hi, may I know where’s the toilet? – when you’re mostly lazy and occasionally blind to locate the toilet signs

Excuse me, could you tell me how do I get to XXX?” – when you have Internet but want to interact with the locals

“Hey could you please help me find out the requirements for XXX university? – when you wanna study but actually don’t want to

“Hey can you please come to my house and help me mop the floor?” – I did this multiple times before and it always works

“I can’t decide what to eat. Help me. ” – not exactly useful but people try all the time, trying is better than not trying


You right now: But what you mentioned above is what I would say too given the circumstances.

Me: Yeah if you couldn’t even do those, you badly need help right now to overcome your antisocial-ness and/or shyness and/or whatever.


Those are pretty minor stuff, if you noticed. What I’m trying to convey here is that we all should learn to ask for help too for more serious matters. Matters that require you to lower your ego to perceive the network around you more equally.

When you’re at the same level, help is transferred more easily without much friction. But when you think that you have different power dynamics, haha shit, good luck taming your ego monster.


Struggling with your studies though you’ve consistently aced exams all your life?

“I need help”

Need financial help for something important in your life?

“I need help”

Mentally breaking down?

“I need help”

Need help in general?

“I need help”


Don’t feel ashamed. More often than not, it’s only you yourself who has high expectations on yourself, no one else really cares. But they love to help. Let them help.


My name is Kwan Wei Yen and I need help.

2 thoughts on ““I need help”

  1. This is such a great post! I love the little study that you did with searching up hashtags (I usually do that for stupid reasons, like to see which celebrity gets tagged the most) Your message is so important, and you convey is to beautifully.

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